Updated: Jan 17
A dream relationship is one of the top things that people desire to manifest in their lives when they first learn about the Law of Attraction. Who doesn't want to be in love?
People also tend to have a lot of limiting beliefs around getting their dream guy/gal. In today's article I will discuss the #1 thing holding you back from manifesting the perfect relationship and what to do to let go of it so you can get the man/woman of your dreams!
You Can't Make Someone Fall in Love with You if They Are Not Interested
If you're reading this article to try to get a specific person to fall in love with you, I need to preface this that you can't make someone fall in love with you if they are not interested or not a vibrational match. I am not saying that it is 100% impossible to get into a relationship with that person. But you both have to be enough of a match to each other in order for it to happen, and since a relationship is a co-manifestation, if you two are not aligned with the perfect relationship or have a different definition of an ideal relationship, you two will not be a match for each other.
Now that doesn't mean that you don't get to have a dream relationship! It's about letting go of the specific avenue of which that comes to you (the person). It's letting go of the how. Because if you two aren't getting smoochy with each other already, there are other factors here that you may not be aware about. He/she might want kids, while you don't. Maybe he/she has a limiting belief about how women are clingy or men are assholes and you can't get aligned into a relationship with someone that has that lower vibrational belief!
So instead of focusing on the specific person, go general with you thoughts. Think about what would constitute an ideal relationship for you and start there. What is your dream guy/gal saying, doing, and feeling that makes you melt? Focus on the general of how you want to feel without getting into specifics.
You Have to Complete Yourself First
The #1 mistake that people make is that they try to get into relationships in order to feel better about themselves, when you need to start with being comfortable with yourself. You have to think you're worthy the way you are. If you are going into a relationship looking for the other person to "complete" you, it's going to be doomed from the start.
Needing another person is saying "I can't feel good about myself until you come along and validate me", which is in the vibration of "I don't have it. I'm not good enough." and will either keep you stuck being single (with your 50 cats all named Fluffy) or make you manifest a codependent relationship that isn't satisfying and/or quickly falls apart.
Feeling good about yourself and wanting a relationship, however, is a completely different vibration. This comes from the energy of "I love myself and I know I'm worthy, no matter what, and I think it would be nice to have a relationship because it would be enjoyable and fun." It comes from a place of self-respect, and not needing someone else to complete you because you complete yourself first.
And you know what types of people are attracted to those who love you but don't need you to prove to themselves their own self-worth (and can thus give you truly unconditional love)?
Really amazing people. People who respect you and respect themselves. High-vibing people!
So the place to start, if you're looking to manifest the perfect relationship (and not just a crummy one), is to first take and honest look at why you want it. Do you want it because it would be fun? Or do you want it because you need it? Because you think that if you just had a boyfriend/girlfriend, everything would be okay?
If so, ask yourself, "what do I need to do to become a person that I respect? What do I need to do or be to become a person I would want to date? What do I need to let go of?" Start with yourself.
When you feel more comfortable with yourself, you'll find that you attract better people into your life. You're inspired to flirt and interact with really great people. You have fun! And soon enough you'll find yourself in that dreamy relationship.
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