Updated: Jul 26
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Do you keep manifesting bad relationships? Relationships where at first you thought it was perfect, and then it all fell apart in a wild fury of tears and anger? Do you find yourself scratching your head about what went wrong, or wondering why you didn't see the now very obvious red flags in the first place?
Relationships are a reflection of where your love vibration is currently at. If you keep manifesting relationships that turn from sweet to sour, it means that you have some gunky limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck in less-than-stellar relationships. But don't worry; all vibrations can be changed. Read today's article to learn the 1st of the top 3 reasons why you keep manifesting bad relationships and what you can do to change those limiting beliefs and land the partner of your dreams!
(I want to add a note here: if you are in an abusive relationship, leave that relationship immediately. This article is not about condoning violence or saying that it is okay for someone to hit you or hurt you - it is about learning how to raise your vibration so that you do not keep attracting these unwanted relationships.)
Reason #1 - The belief That You Always Manifest "bad" relationship Is A Limiting Belief Itself
What you believe about yourself is what you see. We create stories about ourselves that we identify with, and then these stories manifest in our lives as a mirror to our beliefs. Thus, if you identify as someone who always has shitty relationships, you will prove this story to yourself by attracting shitty partners!
So if you believe yourself to be the type of person who only ever has bad relationships, sit with yourself and ask yourself why. Did you have one relationship that ended badly when you were in high school and your formed the belief that you can't ever have a good relationship since? Do the men or women in your family seem to only ever have crappy relationships, and you identify as being like the rest of your family in the unlucky in love department? Trust that what first comes to mind is leading you in the right direction, and do the fairy godmother game for clarity if needed.
A concept that can help turn the belief "I always attracting bad relationships" around is by changing the definition of what a "bad" relationship is. In my culture in the United States, we are taught from a young age the idea that we have to find the "one" perfect partner to be with forever, or else we have "failed". But breaking up with someone does not have to be viewed as failure. You were attracted to that person for a reason, and that relationship brought something of value to you, even if it was just to provide you with further clarity on what you do and do not want in a relationship. People also change, and so sometimes relationships that were really good for awhile will naturally start to fall apart as people change in their goals and their values. It's okay for relationships to end.
By letting go of the need for this relationship to be the one and only, trusting that you can manifest good relationships, and by making it okay to have a relationship that doesn't work out long-term, then you relax your vibrational energy from need to want and you will attract better partners and more fulfilling relationships.
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